life | social media

Happy anniversary, sort of.

In case you didn’t know, on Tuesday Facebook celebrated it’s 10th Anniversary. Can you believe that Facebook is only 10 years old? Yes, I know. It feels like it has been a part of our life for so much longer than that, and this comes from someone who only joined in 2009 and only for work purposes. Seriously. 

Ever since joining Facebook I’ve had a love/hate, hate/hate relationship with it. Actually there’s more hate than love I must say. Let’s discuss.

– I hate that it is addictive

– I hate that I want to know what is happening in other peoples lives that I know and even one’s that I don’t. I mean I don’t want to know but I still find myself reading the feed, clicking on photos and checking notifications.

– I hate that it is almost a necessary part of life

– I hate that social media in general is becoming a necessary platform for writers and aspiring authors

– I hate that Facebook is how teenagers communicate

– I hate the bullies, the keyboard cowards and haters who make life unbearable for some on Facebook


But then I think about the positives

– It’s fantastic for those to keep in touch with relatives overseas or interstate

– It’s fantastic to connect with likeminded aspiring authors and writers. The private writer’s group I’m a member of is invaluable.

– It’s fantastic to connect with those who may be interested in my writing


But then I think about Facebook from my children’s point of view. That addiction I mentioned above, the knowing everything that goes on, the lies, the facades, the bullying, the constant connection. If I had the power to press the almighty delete button on Facebook I would, for my kids sake.  I’m sure every generation has the longing feeling of wanting what we had for our children. But as a  product of LBFB (life before Facebook) I really would love that for my kids. The freedom. The time. The joy of speaking to friends on the phone. The looking forward to catching up at school. Gossiping like school kids used to. The innocence. And a place where the world was still big and wide and unknown. It’s something I think of often, too often.

So why don’t I ban my kids from using Facebook? Because I don’t think that’s the answer. I don’t have the answer apart from setting boundaries and ground rules, particularly in regards to time usage, manners, respect and privacy. Unfortunately Facebook, social media and the internet in general are here to stay. We don’t even know what the next big thing will be. That thing that will make Facebook the My Space of the current generation. I shudder to think what it will do to our kids’ lives and how it will change human kind.

Yes, it’s that deep.

So I guess it’s happy birthday Facebook, but in some ways I’d be more content with a funeral.


What are your feelings about Facebook?