Are you a blogger? Do you blog honestly? Or do you hold back?
Are there words you would love to put out there but feel you need to refrain for one reason or another?
I like to think that I’m pretty honest here on my blog, I think it’s important. If I’m not honest then am I not a fraud?
But there are some things that can’t or shouldn’t be said.
Things that will offend, things that will hurt and things that are just plain mean.
Those things don’t need to be said.
Other times though, we hold back things that should be said. We hold back out of fear and judgment, in times like those it’s hard to be honest. Particularly when you know friends and family are reading.
I know as a blogger I hold back. There are times when I’m not entirely honest. It’s not that I’m purposely lying with intent, it’s more lying by omission. We all do it.
But, sometimes the things we don’t say are the things we need to say the most.
So I’m gong to say some things now. Honestly.
1. I’ve made mistakes.
Going into retail is one that springs to mind. I’m not a good people person. Being in store eats away my insides. I feel burdened and caged. It’s not for me. I need to be free. My creative mind needs space.
In all honestly, as much as I do love the families I’ve dealt with over the past three years, it’s not for me. And I can’t wait to get out. I can’t do it any longer.
2. I still struggle with what others think of me
As much as I don’t want to, I still care what others think of me. I do. It’s the only reason I can think as to why I am a shy person.
It’s not that I’m not confident. I think I’m pretty good at what I’m good at. I’m a nice person, I’m friendly, I have a sense of humour, I like to talk, but at the same time I hold back as I’m scared people with think I’m stupid or not cool or something even worse. I’m scared of outcomes of which I have no control.
So even though I write about not caring what others think of me, I still do. A little bit. More than I should. But I’m trying not to.
3. We all just want to be accepted and acknowledged and we should admit it.
I don’t care who you are or what you do, what we all want out of life is acceptance and recognition. Even if you never admit it, deep down it’s partly what drives you.
I want to be accepted for who I am and recognised for what I do. I want people to say ‘good on you’ or ‘great job’. I want people to think I’m awesome. At least a little.
4. The online world is full of frauds. And we’re all frauds at one time or another.
Who hasn’t put up a happy moment on their Facebook to prove how wonderful their life is when in fact you couldn’t feel more like crap and more of a failure if you tried?
Who hasn’t blogged about how on track their lives are, how driven and motivated they are, when in reality it feels like things are falling apart at the seams?
We all pretend. We all put on a social mask. We all lie. We all do it. It’s a defence mechanism.
Online isn’t that much different to offline in some respects. We can’t possibly be totally honest each and every moment we interact in this life.
Imagine if we were?
5. We all need to get off our high horse and respect others’ honesty
The past week online I have seen people attacked and berated for asking simple questions. For voicing opinions on contentious subjects. For being honest. Sure it’s okay to have an opinion and voice against someone else’s, but many people don’t actually think how their words may be taken when they are written in the heat of the moment. It’s hard to portray the right tone online sometimes.
We all need to just take a breath and think before we act. A bit like that letter or email we want to send in a moment of anger or frustration. Sleep on it. Think on it. Fast forward to the next morning and think how you would feel if you did send it.
This isn’t about not being honest, this is about being tactful, respecting others opinions and respectfully putting forward a different point of view. And respecting others when they have the courage to simply be honest.
I don’t know about you, but that felt pretty good. I feel a little lighter inside and to be honest, again, I needed that right now.
What’s something you feel like being honest about right now? Share below, anonymously if you want, or if you’re really feeling the honesty vibe blog or Facebook it and share the link below.