Personally I gave up on new year resolutions a long while ago. The unrealistic expectations, the pressures of failure, really is it worth it?
This year though, I have been inspired by Bron at Maxabella Loves to choose a word to focus on for the year. Last year I couldn’t bring myself to find a word, 2012 was going to be a hard year and it certainly lived up to that status. In retrospect my 2012 word should have been ‘survive’ and thankfully I am happy to report I did.
Now I approach the new year with a renewed sense of hope and direction, both which had been lost for the past few years amoungst all the gunk that life throws. Now I view the coming year with a clarity and simpleness and it feels good. Really good. And with the haze lifted and blinkers removed it was quite easy to choose my word to focus on for 2013.
Let me explain.
I have been brought up in a world where women have been told by society and each other, that they can have it all. The Holy Grail of womanhood – Superwoman status. The woman that successfully juggles it all – career, family and self. And we have been taught that multi-tasking is the answer to achieving it. Oh yes, we women are wonderful creatures. We can cook dinner, diffuse our children fighting, talk business on the phone and chat on Twitter all at the same time. Amazing indeed.
However, the problem with multi-tasking is more grandiose than would first appear. At first glance it seems all is well. Everything is getting your attention, things are getting done and you are ticking off that always demanding to-do-list. But…and this is a big but, soon the holes start to appear. You miss your baby’s first smile as you check your emails. You overlook paying the phone bill when doing the accounts the other day. You forget to return that important work call. Little things. At first.
You see the problem with multi-tasking is it doesn’t work. Nothing gets your full undivided attention, you are never 100% focused on what you are doing. Really, when you think about it, it really is a sad way to live your life.
I have learned the hard way, which isn’t always a bad thing. But it has certainly made me realise that I don’t want to miss out anymore. I want to be present in every moment, in every little thing that I do. If I am playing with the kids, I will be only playing with the kids. If I am cooking dinner, I will be only cooking dinner. If I am writing, I am giving 100% of my focus to writing. At work, I will be totally focused and plugged in to what needs to be done. Present and focused in every single moment.
I’m sure it is not as easy as it sounds, but I do know the rewards will be overwhelming. How can they not?
I know the relationship with my husband and children will improve. I know my writing will develop in leaps and bounds. My business goals will be achievable. My health and sanity will thank me. For me it is going to be the feeling of life success.
So bring on 2013 I look forward to relishing every moment with vigour, enthusiasm and 100% attention. Being present.
What are your thoughts on resolutions? Do you have a word for 2013?