Why I’m happy for P!nk to be a role model for my girls

Sunday night Mr. Husband and I travelled to the ‘big smoke’ to see P!ink in concert. A combination of road trip, concert and 24 hours without children – I was very excited indeed!

I have been a Pink fan ever since she burst onto the scene in in 2000 with her singles ‘There you go’ and ‘Most girls’. Pink was different, angry and soulful and just the thing needed at the time to liven up the deflated music scene.

For whatever reason I have always been a fan of unique, dark, even angry voices. The Cure got me through high school, whilst Alanis Morrisette is one of my all time favourite artists, so it was only natural that I was going to be  Pink fan.

But it isn’t only her distinctive vocals and introspective lyrics that resonated with me. Pink is an inspirational role model and I’d have no problems with her being one for my daughters.

Now let me preface this by saying role models don’t always need to be ‘celebrities’  or ‘stars’, in fact a lot of the time my role models are in fact normal, everyday people who are inspiring for so many different reasons. They may be family members, teachers or friends. Normal people, living normal lives. But that is a different post for another day.

In this case, Pink most certainly is of ‘star’ status but unlike a lot of the other celebrity role models out there, in my opinion, she is one of the better ones. Here’s why.

Role models aren’t always perfect examples to be sat up upon pedestals to be emulated. I believe true role models are flawed. Not only do they teach you what to do, but also what not to do. Real role models are transparent, they are human and make as many mistakes as the rest of us.

Pink is flawed and she will be the first one to admit it. She is raw, opinionated, outspoken, likes things loud, loves to party and cusses way too much. But she makes no apologies for who she is. She lives her life in the moment with her heart on her sleeve and totally owns her mistakes. But she also learns from them too.

She has been through ups and downs, visited dark places within herself but always showed inner strength and resolution to survive.

Pink balks at the traditional role models for girls proving that you don’t have to be beautiful and act ‘stupid‘ to be noticed or successful. She shows that you can be strong, an individual and stand up for what you believe in. Why can’t you wear your hair short, be covered in tattoos and still be beautiful, talented and smart all at the same time without compromising who you are? Pink is proof that you can.

Now mother to three year old little Willow, Pink has admitted she is a totally different person since bringing a child into the world, saying motherhood has softened her. She has learned from her past and changed, just as we all do. This was the one thing I took away from the concert last night; the evidence of her walk through life. On stage last night she was, raw, energetic, angry, emotional, beautiful, caring, honest, touching and had a presence that resonated inner beauty and strength. Pure testament to who she is and her journey so far.

I have four girls (two step-teens and two younger ones) and I have no problems with Pink as a role model for them if so they choose. And although I encourage them to find their own role models that resonate with them, if they chose to look up to Pink, over some of the other choices out there today,  I would be more than happy.

 

Who would you be happy for your children to look up to?

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